Compatability Checklist

Compatibility checklist

An overall principle of smart relationships is to seek a good match and to pay attention to values. What do you and your partner have in common? In which areas do you find yourselves in sync? Make a check mark beside qualities you share (for example, if you are close in age, put a checkmark). This checklist is simply a tool for helping you determine how much you possess in common with a dating partner. Consider how incompatibility in any one of these areas might cause problems in a relationship. If you do not have a dating partner or interest, complete this checklist focused on a particular friendship.

_ Age

_ Family background/upbringing

_ Interests & activities

_ Attitudes about school & educational goals

_ Use of drugs or alcohol

_ Preferences in music and entertainment

_ Religious or spiritual beliefs

_ Social life/friends

_ Goals/vision for life in next five or ten years

_ Optimism & energy level

_ Self-discipline & self-control

_ Dependability & responsibility

_ Political, moral, & ethical views

_ Sense of humour

_ Ability to communicate

_ Ability to manage conflict

_ Management of anger

_ Expression of emotions

_ Confidence

_ Role expectations for males and females

_ Sexual boundaries

_ Maturity of conscience

Problems incompatibility might cause in any of these areas: ________________

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Source: Marline Pearson (2007) Love U2 [The Dibble Institute, Berkeley, CA]. This is taken from a sample lesson.  It and other resources can be viewed at www.DibbleInstitute.org